I'm still trying to figure out a title.
I figured that for the first year aniversy of my blog I would write down what is still getting to me. What still needs to be fixed. Open up my past even more personal experiences That I still want resolved. Why I still try to find fault with other mommy or family bloggers. What is the root of my frusterations or my anger. How can it be fixed. My point in writing these issues down is that I hope these too can be resolved. If you read my last post about dissecting my first post I told you some of my "jealousy" issues were actually resolved during the year. I'm hoping for that this year. Alot of the resolutions to the problems I will write about are going to be far fetched trust me I know. I hope I can someday just forgive the debt I feel is owed to me but until that day here is what I still feel is owed to me. Yes I know sound like a whiney brat but unfortunately the whiney brat gets what he wants. Sometimes.
You've probably heard of the professer who took a glass put rock pebbles sand and water in it all the while asking his students after every item was poured if the glass was full. I'm going to try to relate that to my issues. Instead of focusing on the smaller problem (sand)I'm going to focus more on the larger problems (rocks) to try to resolve some of my past issues.
The honeymoon.
Before I ever dated I thought about my future honeymoon. (Guys plan their honeymoon girls plan the wedding)After my older brother took a week with his bride up to canada I started planing my future honeymoon. Eventually I had a stupendous (actually it was pretty dumb) Idea for a honeymoon. My plan was to head to the California coast then road trip to the east coast then back home spending up to 3-4 weeks doing it all. What happened? I ran out of money and couldn't save any because my in laws had their rules for helping me. And it didn't help. My honeymoon consisted of a one night stay at a resort in Scottsdale Arizona then heading back to my in laws to open presents. People if you can not afford a honeymoon please consider posponing the wedding. I still regret not going. We thought we were going to resolve that issue within the first year but unfortunately her family's spending habits were contagious and we kept going into debt because my bride constantly bought items we "need" (like decorative towels and new 300 dollar pot n pan set or a pillow top matress and t.v. that her mother in law sold us).
I still want a honeymoon but it will not be the same. It can't. You don't get the same excitement as you do with a new bride but what would help? A paid for extravagant vacation such as a Bahamas cruise or Jamaica or Hawaii? Maybe. I would also like my 400 bucks back from the previous MIL. Actually she more owes me around 20 k. Trust me I can prove it.
The car I never wanted.
There's no think that irks me more than car payments and there's a reason. If you read my post a while back I had a short story of how that came to be. To cut it short my FIL and MIL handed off a problem (they were good at that with us ie the mattress and t.v. mentioned above) to us. The story goes deeper than that though . When I met my wife she had a learners permit and didn't get her license till after we were married. It was a control issue her step mom had. So not only did my in laws hand off a l iscense issue to me they also handed off a car she couldn't learn to drive. It eventually cost me close to 25000 that I shouldn't of had to spend. To fix this problem A. I win the lottery b. Someone gives me 150 k to completely get out of debt c. My father in law gives me 20k ( which he arguably owes me from forcing us to take the car) or D I win a brand new 2015 Honda Odysseus with taxes and registration paid for.
Fake friends who don't realize how much hurt they cause.
I don't want to go to deep into this story but these "friends" really showed us what kind of friends they were when they chose to go on a date rather than babysit our kids so we could, I don't know, have a baby. (By this point I hadn't been on a date for almost a year) And for those who think we just asked out of the blue, nope, we had this plan for weeks. This was the family I mentioned in the first post who lived with his parents then moved to Arizona to move in with her parents. I'm telling you parents out there who think your helping when you continually let your kids live with you. You may be doing more damage than good. This "friend" of mine has not had a steady job since he moved there. I personally think one of the reasons they moved was because the grandma down there felt it was her turn and she was going to stop at nothing to get them to move. I would like an apology and for them to have a taste of their own medicine. I can go on what that could be but I don't have time.
The getaway cabin.
It's funny that at least half of the bloggers I followed during my "jealousy" rage had cabins to escape to. I still need and want I one. Solution obvious a cabin
Free babysitters.
Everybody knows everyone. Why? They never leave their family. I don't think anybody gets a clue of the real world unless you're away at school or away from your family have kids then realize family is good for something. One of the reasons I haven't done alot of dates or getaways is because I have no one except for a paid sitter who I would trust long enough to take my kids. No surprise getaways with just my wife and not that many dates. Unlike neighbors and friends (who do not invite us to their outings because they know we don't have a babysitter) Solution. I might need to move closer to family or be wealthy enough to higher a full/part time nanny
More weekend trips.
Solution more balanced finances no car payments no debt more cash or I guess we could do more family business trips.
My parents contract.
Afree coming up from college with only enough money to pay for one way. My rodeo started having problems. I had a plan to make some quick cash but unfortunately my car took up my time. I finally figured it out but ran out of time to make some cash. I asked my mom for cash to get back and my dad got involved wrote up a contract and had me sign it. All over 300 dollars. They were paid with in a week. I think about that contract often and I still have it. When I am struggling I feel like I can't ask them for help anymore. I'm afraid they'll do the same thing. Several of my brothers have thousands of dollars owed to my parents. Not one of them has a contract. Solution. An apology a wedding gift (lets just say she forgot to add 50 dollars to a wedding gift she owed me. She gave me my money back) and maybe a taste of their own medicine.
I know I sound like a 13 year old girl. It's not that I don't care I just want to get all of my feelings out so I can start climbing. If grudges need to be brushed off and trespasses forgiven let me find my way to do it.
To 2015. the best year of my life. Please!
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